Sunday, December 10, 2006
Don't Sugarcoat It For Me!
One of my friends went on a date with a psychologist who treated the morbidly obese, some of whom were bedridden, many on their way to the bed on a rascal device (ie, a motorized scooter), those considering gastric bypass, and so on. It's about choices, the psychologist said. You have to make them see how they have created themselves and have the power to undo it. No surprise, the psychologist was a tiny little dude who picked at his entree, a vegetable medley livened up by tofu. And I also treat their families, he continued. It's our job to adapt to them, not the other way around. My friend did not share this view -- You mean if someone eats themselves into a stupor and has to wash themselves with a rag on a stick, we have to accomodate them? He speared a piece of tofu and said, Yes. Anything less is unfair and unkind. You won't be surprised when I tell you this was their one and only date.
So it was presented to me in the after date dissection, a dating ritual even more important than the date itself. If the date was another night in suck city, the date dissection becomes a date autopsy -- why did the the potential love die on the vine? For Mr. Tiny Dude and my friend, the answer was easy -- they didn't agree on the question of personal responsibility. My friend, a tough customer under the best of circumstances, said she didn't want some tofu-eating babyman who coddled fatties for a living. Don't sugarcoat it for me, I said, and laughed. It's all about choices, she said. But love is not a choice and nobody has to accomodate it. You won't get more room on the plane or an extra helping of dessert. In fact, you may lose your appetite altogether, and you won't mind a bit.
Michelle's Spell of the Day
"Why was I born handsome instead of rich?" Ralphie on The Sopranos
1 glass of champagne
1 splash of cognac
Serve chilled with a strawberry garnish.
Benedictions and Maledictions
Happy Sunday! Dear readers, thank you for all the comments. Keep your heads up in the Christmas rush!