Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Love And Marriage
Hi everyone! Thanks for the great comments on my marriage post. Working on a longer piece about this issue. I've been reading a lot of provocative writing on this subject lately and agree with Jodi that in a highly sexualized culture, it's hard to make compromises at times. Also, I think that getting married later can be a very good idea, but also brings with it particular challenges that we as a society haven't entirely managed to handle well at times. I also tend to think that most relationships go through three phases -- the honeymoon, the inevitable disappointment, and then mature love. Sadly, it's my contention that most relationships don't ever get to the mature love phase, the comfortable happy phase where we don't expect to agree on everything, don't think the person is the answer to all sadness and love the person all the more for what he or she actually is. We spend a lot of time putting people on the proverbial pedestal and then not ever getting over the bitterness when that person doesn't measure up to the ideal. I also know a lot of people who married a second choice out of pressure or fear. Also a recipe for disaster. But I'll put more thoughts into this as the week progresses. Hope you guys are surviving July!