Monday, November 01, 2010

I Write The Book

There's a lot of lore around first impressions, that they are accurate, that a terrible first impression leads to love (like in all the romantic comedies -- they hate each other at first -- can you believe it?), that they cannot be trusted. I usually like almost everyone which is a fault according to some, a virtue to others. This does not mean that almost everyone likes me. I tend to be what people generously refer to as an acquired taste. I'm shocked when people find me intimidating. I'm not shocked when they find me obnoxious, out to lunch, shy, or disturbed.

As for my first impressions of others, I have been wrong, but the error quickly rights itself. My first contact with many is not great and sometimes those people have become my very closest friends. So I try and hold off on judgment. The older I get, the less I'm prone to make judgments. So many factors! Experience teaches that you can't judge a book by its cover (the most you can do with the cover is say, Someone isn't very good at marketing) and that you can't determine what someone will be like under pressure or in happiness or sorrow. Anyone have some good first impression stories? Would love to hear them . . .

Michelle's Spell of the Day
"Actions are visible, though motives are secret." Samuel Johnson

Cocktail Hour
Starting a Christmas card/present list -- if you want to be on it, email me your address at Yes, I still send letters. I know it's weird. But consider me an old-fashioned girl . . .

Benedictions and Maledictions
Happy Day of the Dead!


the walking man said...

First impressions are often times wrong. I have many times found that when I look into the eyes of someone for the first time it is a better indicator of the being within.

I have seen some try to give the impression of how they are so bad from a distance and that is my first impression but when I approached to look into their eyes I saw so much fear and pain in there I had to simply leave them their illusion. After all there is no benefit in destroying someones self image as long as they keep their hands and feet to themselves.

"Experience teaches..." A wise friend write somewhere or another.

I am still alive .. said...

I stumbled over your blog searching some quote in google ..

First impression is good though, even after reading several posts ..

jodi said...

Hi Babe, I am to wary to accept a first impression when it comes to men. However, with women I tend to make a quick assessment. When I met you, I thought you were too dark and deep to be my friend. Turns out opposites attract! Love and miss ya. xo

Charles Gramlich said...

I generally find that my first impressions are accurate, though at times I have definitely had to rethink.

Scott said...


I've always hated the old chick-flick shtick of they-hate-each-other-and-then -they-fall-in-love. I do suppose it can (and has) happened in real life, but come on already.

Usually, my first impressions are fairly accurate, but there have been exceptions, as always.

Can't wait to see more of your Halloween pics. Take care!

Lana Gramlich said...

I know that 1st impressions can be totally wrong, so I keep that in mind all the time. Sometimes, however, people are just crystal clear. That can be refreshing...or downright annoying.